Harriet Eliza Paver was born on 20th April 1855 at Beavor Lane in Hammersmith. Her father Joseph Paver was from Hull, and her mother Rebecca Greenway was from South Bersted in Sussex; they must have met in Hammersmith where he was working as an oil miller, while she was in service, and they married there on the 11th June 1853. Their first child, Rebecca, who had been born in Hammersmith in 1854, died in 1858, by which time the family had moved to Marshgate Lane, Stratford in Essex. At the time of the 1861 census the family living at the Seed Crushing Mills in Marshgate Lane consists of parents Joseph and Rebecca, and children [Harriet] Eliza, 5, Joseph, 3, and Frank, 1. Living with them is William Greenway, 15, Rebecca's youngest brother who is also working as an oil miller. Another daughter, Rebecca, was born here on the 16th June 1861, but by 1863 when their son John was born, the family had moved to Rotherhithe, where they had a further two sons, William (1865) and Albert Arthur (1868). Rebecca Paver, died on the 14th September 1869 from phthisis at the age of 35, when the family address is 163 Rotherhithe Street, and Joseph Paver, the informant, and widower, is described as factory foreman. Left on his own with seven children, five of them under ten, Joseph quickly married again. His new wife, Sarah, was the widow of his old friend and travelling companion from Hull, John Campleman. Sarah had recently lost her husband in an horrific industrial accident, and had also suffered the deaths of four of her five children. When she married Joseph Paver on the 6th March 1870 she brought into the family her surviving daughter Emily who had been born at 4 Richmond Place, Hammersmith on the 18th May 1855 when the Camplemans and Pavers had been fairly close neighbours. Harriet Eliza Paver and Emily Campleman In the 1871 census the extended family is still living at 163 Rotherhithe Street, and it is perhaps evidence of the comparative affluence of the family that the two girls, Harriet Eliza and Emily, now nearly sixteen, are both listed as scholars, though probably they remained at home to help Sarah manage the household and look after all the younger children. Separated by less than a month in age the two girls appear to have remained close. When Emily married Charles James Puzey in Rotherhithe on the 9th July 1876 she initially named Joseph Paver as her father. Her new husband gives his residence as Bermondsey and his rank or profession as Publican. The register incorrectly gives his father Stephen Puzey's occupation as Veterinary Surgeon (though he did have a certain affinity for sporting dogs) : like the rest of the family he was in the licensed trade, and his son, Charles James had been brought up in the World's End Tavern in Chelsea (1861 census) and the North Star on the Finchley Road (1871 census). At the time of the 1881 census Emily is living with her husband and daughter Nellie Ann, aged 3, in Islington at 331 City Road. Charles James is a Licensed Victualler, but this address does not appear to be a public house. Their son Frederick Charles who is nearly 2 years old, is living with his Paver grandparents, Emily's mother Sarah and Harriet Eliza's father Joseph, at 480 Rotherhithe Street. Shortly after the census the Puzeys moved to Bermondsey where they were running the Stave Porters pub in Jacob Street. It was here at the beginning of July 1883 that Charles James Puzey died from phthisis; his death was registered by his sister-in-law, Harriet Eliza who had been present. A month later at this same address Emily gave birth to their third child, a son, whom she named Charles James. Emily continued to run the Stave Porters after her husband’s death for according to the South London Chronicle of  the 22nd December 1883 under unjust weights and measures: Emily Puzey, Stave Porters, Jacob-street, Dockhead, Bermondsey, victualler, 11 unjust measures and 11 unstamped measures. Fined £3 17s 6d.  Emily married again on the 31st May 1884 in Stepney. Her husband was Thomas Robert Mason, another Licensed Victualler, and the address they both give on the marriage certificate is 51 Tait Street, St George-in-the-East, which was the King & Queen public house. They had two children born in Rotherhithe, Thomas in 1886 and Edith in 1889; when they were baptised however their father's occupation is given first as Dock labourer, next as Clerk. By the time of the 1891 census Emily and her five children are living at Westlake Rd., Rotherhithe. She has the occupation of Machinist but her husband is not present. It appears to be his death that is registered in the final quarter of 1891 in St Olave, Southwark at the age of 31. In 1901 an Emily Mason, the widow of a publican is a patient in a hospital for women on census night; her son Thomas is living with her daughter Nellie Ann, who is now married to George Thomas Henry Harvey. These are the only two of her five children that I have found after 1891. Emily probably died in 1901 shortly after the census. Alfred Jeffery On the 1st February 1880 Harriet Eliza married Alfred Jeffery in Christ Church, Rotherhithe. He was a widower and a licensed victualler and gives his address as 20 Yardley Street, Clerkenwell, which is also the Wilmington Arms in Rosebery Avenue. The Jeffery family had been running the Wilmington Arms for at least 10 years, as Alfred and his brother John are there with their 72 year old mother, Sarah Jeffery, who holds the licence, in 1871 at the time of the census. The 1881 census finds Harriet Eliza and her husband Alfred Jeffery living at, and running, the Wilmington Arms along with his brother John.  This way of life was not to last very long. Alfred Jeffery died on the 13th August 1882 at the Wilmington Arms at the age of 37. He'd had diarrhoea and vomiting for 5 days, delirium tremens for 36 hours, and convulsions for 5 minutes. H. E. Jeffery, widow of the deceased and present at the death, was the informant. Alfred died intestate and administration of his estate of £696 12s 9d was granted to Harriet Eliza. By the 8th July 1883 she was living in Bermondsey at 1 Jacob Street presumably to help support the heavily pregnant Emily with her young children and a sick husband. Harriet was herself about three months pregnant at this time: too late to be Alfred’s child, we have to assume this was the child of the man she married two months after its birth … Charles Frederic Murray Charles Frank Murray was born on the 21st of January 1884 at 60 Canterbury Rd., Old Kent Road. His birth was registered on the 4th of March by his mother Harriet Eliza Murray formerly Jeffery (but no mention of Paver), and his father is named as Charles Frederic Murray, an Engineer. He was baptised on the 6th July 1884 at St Mary Rotherhithe by which time his parents had married on the 23rd of March at All Saints in Hatcham. They both give their address as 60 Canterbury Road, and the witnesses at their marriage are her brothers Frank Sidney Paver and Joseph Paver, and very suitably the latter as he was how the couple came to meet. Charles Frederic Murray, son of Charles Henry Murray (1816-1891) and Caroline Augusta Milleman (1822-1887), was born on the 14th of July 1844 while the family were living on Blackheath Hill in Greenwich. He was baptised on the 27th of October 1844 in St Alphege Greenwich, when his father is described as an engineer. Living in Peckham in 1851, by 1861 the family are living in Windsor Grove in Camberwell, with the 16 year old Charles Frederic working as a Mechanical draughtsman.  In 1871 Charles Frederic is a Sapper in the Royal Engineers at the School of Military Engineering, Brompton Barracks in Chatham, and he is believed to have served overseas, probably in Bermuda, in the 1870s. At the time of the 1881 census Charles Frederic Murray is a lodger at 172 Southwark Bridge Road; aged 33 (actually 37), he is an Engineer E&M. Also lodging at that address is Joseph Paver, aged 23 and also an Engineer E&M; he is Harriet Eliza's brother. The E&M appears to have been written in on the census return by the enumerator or a later statistician, and probably means Electrical & Mechanical, perhaps suggesting a certain level of expertise. Charles and Harriet’s daughter Catherine was born on the 29th March 1886 at 75 Abbeyfield Road, Rotherhithe. By the time she was baptised, along with two Paver cousins, at St Mary, Rotherhithe on the 28th August 1887, the family had moved to 1 Olney Street, on the corner with Walworth Road. This property and junction no longer exist*, but an advert from 1892 reveals that this was a leasehold house, let at 15s a week. There were three more children born at 1 Olney Street: George Henry on the 4th October 1888; Margaret on the 14th February 1890; Joseph Henry on the 2nd November 1891. George and Margaret were both baptised at St Katherine’s, Rotherhithe, again at the same time as Paver cousins. George died aged 2 on the 8th November 1890, and the family story is that he fell, or was tipped out of his pram; in fact his death certificate shows him to have died from bronchitis, as a complication of measles. Joseph Henry does not appear to have been baptised; his birth was registered by his mother on the 14th December 1891, giving their address as 1 Olney Street, and his father’s occupation as Engine fitter. That December was not a good month for the Murrays: grandfather Charles Henry Murray had died on the 2nd, and on the 19th Charles Frank, now aged 7, had been knocked down while crossing the road, had sustained a fracture to the base of his skull and was in St Thomas’ Hospital in a critical condition. (Lloyd's Weekly Newspaper 20 December 1891) He obviously survived, but things got worse. The family all moved to Lewisham, and perhaps with help from Charles Henry’s will, took over the Queen’s Arms Tavern in Court Hill Road. Sadly, on the 19th June 1892 Charles Frederic died at the Queen’s Arms from heart disease and exhaustion; he left no will so Harriet had to administer his effects to the value of £176 8s., and cope with the four children. Charles Henry Murray’s will Charles Henry Murray who died on the 2nd December 1891 in Croydon, left a personal estate of £1,182 13s and he also left a long and complex set of instructions for its disposal to the trustees and executors in his will and codicil. It shouldn’t have been that complicated because basically he is just dividing everything up between his two surviving children with their respective spouses: Charles Frederic and Harriet Eliza Murray and Margaret Hannah and George Bryce. Margaret Hannah gets all his furniture, jewellery, plate, linen, china, glass, books, pictures, prints, wines, liquors, consumable stores and articles of household or domestic use, ornament or consumption. Next he sets up a trust on the sum of eight hundred pounds invested in New Zealand four per cent consolidated stock, for Margaret and George to either keep the interest as income or to call in and convert part of or the whole sum. This is changed to six hundred pounds in the codicil as Charles Henry has already called in two hundred pounds to give to George Bryce to advance his business as a wine merchant - he has actually had five hundred pounds from his father-in-law, but some of that he is expected to repay. So Margaret Hannah and George and their five surviving children are doing quite well out of this. It seems strange that his daughter, his younger child, gets first mention in the will, but basically whatever is left will go to Charles Frederick and Harriet Eliza. This part of the will relates to the disposal of his real and personal estate, which the trustees are to sell to invest the income - there follows a long list of investments considered suitable by Charles Henry - or else to lease any property at the best rent that can be reasonably obtained. The money raised also has to pay for his funeral and testamentary expenses and debts; Charles Frederick and Harriet Eliza, and after their deaths, all their four surviving children until they reach the age of twenty-one, or marry, will receive the annual interest from the investments. Despite family stories, their eldest son Charles Frank Murray who was born before their marriage, is not omitted from the will as being effectively illegitimate. Frustratingly no real estate owned by Charles Henry is named; did he own 85 Lower Addiscombe Road where he died and where George Bryce ran his wine and spirit merchant business? Sadly the best laid testamentary intentions do not always go according to plan. Charles Frederic Murray died just six months after his father on the 19th June 1892. So while presumably Harriet Eliza continued to receive the income from the trust, she had also taken up with a local Lewisham man Frederick Riley Ingersoll by the end of 1893  - though what the upstanding trustees thought of that? - and had three children with him before marrying him in 1906. Frederick Riley Ingersoll Frederick and Harriet are living as husband and wife at 27 Holbeach Road, Lewisham at the time of the 1901 census and are sharing four rooms with their six children - four Murrays, and two Ingersolls. Frederick is working as a gardener, while Harriet is a washerwoman - it doesn’t sound as if the family is benefiting much from the trust fund set up by the Murray children’s grandfather, and there are family stories of the poverty they were living in. Charles Frank Murray, Harriet’s oldest son, is now aged 17 and working as a butcher, a career that - despite his perceived illegitimacy - would stand him in good stead. Frederick Ingersoll married Eliza Murray at St Luke’s church in Deptford on the 22nd January 1906. He is a bachelor, aged 48, and a grave-digger, living at 22 Wondale Road; his father Kemsey Ingersoll, deceased, was a veterinary surgeon. [Harriet] Eliza gives her age as 48, saying she’s a widow, and that her father was Joseph Paver (deceased), a Foreman in a Cotton Mill. To maintain the myth that they are not living together she gives her address as 169 Sanders Road, Catford. The witnesses are her sister Rebecca with her husband James Page. By 1911 the family are living in Engleheart Road, Catford. Charles Frank fills in the form as acting head of household and main breadwinner. He is now 27 and a pork butcher’s machine man. His brother Joseph is a shop assistant at a greengrocer’s, his two sisters are domestic servants, as is his step-sister Louisa Ingersoll. Alice Ingersoll is still at school, while their mother, Harriet Eliza is their housekeeper. Frederick Ingersoll, now a gravedigger with Bow Council, is boarding at 25 Glenview Road, Lewisham. Has Harriet kicked him out? Harriet died on the 26th January 1914 in Lewisham Union Infirmary from heart disease. Aged 58, she is described as the wife of Frederick Ingersoll, a grave-digger, by her son Charles Frank Murray who registered her death. Her children must have known this was coming, and that her death might improve their circumstances, for now the trust set up in Charles Henry Murray’s will would have to be wound up. Since Charles Frederic’s death in 1891, Harriet would have been receiving any interest from the investments, and so the family story would have it, drank it away with Frederick Ingersoll. Now whatever was left, had to be turned into capital and divided equally between Charles Frederick Murray’s children. Post mortem So the first half of 1914 was a time of marriages as with a little money the Murray siblings could launch out on their own. Charles Frank Murray married Nellie Molnar on the 4th January 1914; living at first at 4 Engleheart Road, by November that year they are at D’Eynsford Road, Camberwell, before moving to 87 Fitzalan Street in Lambeth by 1916, which would remain their family home until it was destroyed by a direct hit on the 4th October 1940**.  Catherine Murray married Edward Dowdall on the 29th January, between her mother’s death and her burial on the 30th January. This seems somewhat odd, but needs must, and their first child was born three weeks later. Joseph Henry Murray married Jenny Atkins on the 31st May 1914, and they kept 4 Engleheart Road as their family home well into the second half of the 20th century. Margaret Murray did not marry, she trained as a nurse at St. George’s Hospital. Frederick Ingersoll died on the 31st March 1921 in Catford, his death was registered by his and Harriet’s daughter Louisa, born in 1896, and married in 1917. Their first daughter, Emma Eliza, had died at the age of 10 in 1904, and their youngest, Alice born in 1901 was to marry in 1924. Charles Henry Murray was probably wise setting up trusts in his will, as it was one way of making sure - as far as possible - that his grandchildren would benefit. He can’t have had much of an opinion of his son’s abilities, as he would normally have been considered an executor and main beneficiary of his father’s will. The family gossip has it that Charles Frederic Murray was cashiered from the army after a relationship with the wife of a colonel; then to take up with a barmaid and get her pregnant with a child born before they married was not what was expected of the decent professional Murrays. Charles Henry Murray was an engineer and prolific inventor, scale models of some of his machines and the medals that he won at various exhibitions passed down through the family: those that came to Charles Frank Murray disappeared in that direct hit of 1940, along with a portrait of Charles Henry Murray and some large exotic sea shells brought back to England by Charles Frederic Murray from the West Indies. * http://bombsight.org/bombs/11484/ Probably another of the family homes lost in the Blitz as it’s still there on a 1939 map.  ** http://bombsight.org/bombs/9966/ There are 3 to choose from. “On the night of October 4th, 87 Fitzalan Street (the family home since 1914) was completely destroyed. Dad was in the Anderson shelter in the garden. He wasn’t hurt and was dug out by Air Raid Wardens who took him to a Rest Centre in Lollard Street School. The first I knew of it was the next morning when a scribbled note was handed into our Watchroom; it just said: “Your home has gone but your father is OK in Lollard Street School”. It was just unbelievable when I first saw it: the house was completely gone; there was just a large hole half full of water. The wall connected to next door was still standing and on it, right up high, was our bedroom mirror, unbroken. It had to be broken though, in case it caused reflections during raids; I presume this was done by throwing stones at it. Grace and I walked around the hole looking for anything of ours that we might recognise, but there was nothing, just an awful mess: dust, timber, nothing big enough to recognise. About six gardens away we did find one of our two laundry baskets with some pieces of linen that we rescued. Dad had asked us to look for one of his bowler hats: we found several but all rather battered.” “Dad” is Charles Frank Murray. The author and her sister Grace were in the Fire Service.
Murray families: The Pavers Harriet Eliza Paver
 The Sportsman 28 November 1865
Frederick     Riley     Ingersoll     was     the     great- grandson     of     David     Ingersoll,     “Of     Great Barrington,    Massachusetts.    His    name    appears among     the     barristers     and     attornies     who addressed      Hutchinson      in      1774.      He      was proscribed    and    banished    in    1778.    He    was    in England    in    1779,    and    in    1783.    During    the troubles   which   preceded   the   shedding   of   blood, he   was   seized   by   a   mob,   carried   to   Connecticut, and   imprisoned;   while   on   a   second   outbreak   of the   popular   displeasure   against   him,   his   house was    assailed,    he    was    driven    from    it,    and    his enclosures were laid waste.” The      American      Loyalists:      Or,      Biographical Sketches   of   Adherents   to   the   British   Crown   in   the War   of   the   Revolution;   Alphabetically   Arranged; with   a   Preliminary   Historical   Essay   by   Lorenzo Sabine.  C.C. Little and J. Brown, Boston, 1847 David     Ingersoll     settled     in     England     and married   Frances   Rebecca   Ryley   in   Thetford   in Norfolk   in   1783.   His   younger   son   Frederick Horton    Ingersoll    moved    down    to    London, spending   time   in   Lewisham,   where   some   of his children, including Kemsey, settled. Kemsey    Ingersoll    married    Fanny    Divall,    the sister    of    Susannah    Divall    who    was    a    great grandmother   of   Charles   Frank   Murray’s   wife Nellie      Molnar,      making      Frederick      Riley Ingersoll   the   first   cousin   twice   removed   to   his stepson’s wife! I wonder if they knew? From      lawyer      to      gravedigger      in      three generations:      not      all      social      mobility      is upwards.